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+# The Whole Brain Child
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+Chaos - Integration - Rigidity
+
+## Using both sides of the brain
+
+1. "Connect & Redirect": Respond to emotional reactions in an emotive way
+   (right brain to right brain)., then switch to a logical solution once the
+   child is calm.
+2. "Name it to tame it": Recount a painful experience in a way that addresses
+   the emotions that the child felt and shows that there is something to be
+   learned from the experience.
+
+## Developing and integrating the upstairs brain
+
+3. "Engage, don't enrage": Appeal to the upstairs brain: respond to meltdowns
+   and tantrums by prompting the child to use their upstairs brain.
+
+4. "Use it or lose it": Exercise decision making & don't rescue children from
+   the consequences of minor bad decisions. Teach children how to make good
+   decisions when upset. Prompt children to practice self-understanding. Prompt
+   children to practice empathy and seek to understand other people. Challenge
+   children with questions of morality.
+
+5. "Move it or lose it": Use physical exertion to calm anger or fear.
+
+## Integrating implicit and explicit memories.
+
+6. Replay memories. Re-tell stories of traumatic events to reason about what
+   happened and understand why those events caused feelings of fear, anger etc.
+
+7. "Remember to remember": Prompt children to recall their experiences e.g. by
+   asking them to recall select details. Make a game of it.